How I’m Choosing Happy

It sounds odd doesn’t it, to say I’m choosing happy. Like, why would anyone choose to be unhappy? Well, you’d be surprised, throughout my life I’ve made a lot of choices that have led to unhappiness. I’ve chosen to dwell on negatives, chosen to hold grudges, chosen to not be my fullest, happiest self. And honestly, I’ve had enough of it.

If you learn one thing from lose, it really is that life is too short to waste. And if you learn one thing from grief, it’s that the little things really aren’t worth the stress. When you go through big hardships, illness, the loss of loved ones, it reaffirms what’s important, and it makes you realise that the little day to day hassles just aren’t worth being sad about.

Sure, some things are annoying. It’s annoying when you drop your phone and crack the screen, it’s annoying when a bad driver nearly causes an accident in front of you. It’s annoying when you get home and your boyfriend hasn’t hoovered like he said he would, or when your DPD driver fails to deliver your ASOS parcel, even though you were definitely in. But are these things worth being anything less than happy for? No, they aren’t. 

It’s not an easy thing, choosing happiness, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes. I see it as an act of mindfulness, being present. I’m choosing to take control of my own mood and by extension, my own happiness. When these things crop up, I take a moment to acknowledge them, and then file them away in my brain and carry on with my day.

I’m by no means claiming these little things don’t spark annoyance, anxiety or unhappiness in me from time to time. I’m only human, of course they do. But by choosing to not let them upset me, or affect me, I’m happier. These things, they don’t matter in the grand scheme of things, they’re out of my control, so instead of letting them affect my happiness, I’m choosing to let them go.

Choosing happiness is probably the single most empowering thing I’ve done for my mental health. I’m choosing to not engage in anxiety inducing behaviours. I’m choosing to dismiss negative thoughts and emotions. I’m choosing to let the little things go. And honestly? I’m happier than I’d ever been.

I encourage you all, next time you notice something getting to you, to choose happiness. It doesn’t mean you have to like that thing, or just accept it, but I promise by choosing happiness, it’ll either stop mattering, or you’ll be better equipped to deal with it.